It all happened on a boring day at work. My girlfriend was coming from Brazil, but none of my friends really knew I had a girlfriend so I figured that was a good time to tell them. I IM’ed my friend Vanessa, and kind of beat around the bush like “I have something to tell you… not sure how you’re gonna take it, yadda yadda yadda”; basically that’s how the conversation went. Finally I was like “I like girls”. She said “Yeah, what’s your point?” She basically knew, and she was fine with it, which was amazing. I was worried she wouldn’t want to be friends anymore, and she told me I was an idiot. We then proceeded to get coffee and nothing has changed. That same friend is now gonna be a witness at my wedding.
With my other friend Chantal, we were at dinner and I told her, and she was like “Good for you”. She couldn’t care less who I was with.
My sister was living in Hallifax when I told her, so I had to call her to tell her. Her reaction I found the most interesting. Conversation went something like this: “Amber, I like girls.” “Yeah, me and my friends knew since you were 12”. This blew me away because I thought I was the only person who knew this at the time. She then proceeded to make fun of me for playing softball as kid… classic lesbian sport.
I told my parents I was bi when I was drunk. Needless to say I had forgotten I told them this when my mom casually brought it up in a conversation a few days later. I was shocked that she knew. My sister says she’s blind, and all the L Word memorabilia kind of gave it away. A little while later I told both my parents I was actually gay. My mom didn’t take it very well, but surprisingly my dad was fine with it. He just wants me to be happy. Things were a little rough when my girlfriend and I were living at my parent’s, but since we’ve moved out my mom seems to be a lot cooler with it.
That’s my coming out story… I could go into detail about everyone I ever told but that would be boring and these are the main people.