I owe some of the hootspa to a boyfriend I had in my twenties who came out to me about liking to crossdress…then he said to me: now go tell/show the world that you like women “you know you do!” I have to admit being somewhat shocked. Not that he liked to crossdress, but that he knew that I longed to be with women. My dream was, at that point, to be with both men and women; often and always. He helped me come out, which at the time was a process of admitting it to myself.

It was other subsequent relationships with guys that I came out to first. Actually to all of them I cam out, but did not actively pursue both sexes until my late 30’s. It was easier to be with men for me, still is, I get all shy when it comes to asking a woman out. Men are easy, simple, I know how to read them better (I think I do anyway).
Because of this ’shyness’, I tend to hook up with couples more than with single women.

It’s a matter of trust and confidence in myself to be with a woman. I tend to think it’s courage that will help me get more dates with women, but I think it’s really about being honest with myself first.

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