I was asked by a friend on SodaHead to post my story…The question she asked was “Do you think it is still difficult to “come out” in today’s society?” My answer follows:

I think that depends on where you live and who you surround yourself with. I am out..not the type who runs amock screaming that I’m gay (I know a girl who does that and people find her extremely annoying) If someone asks I will tell them I have a partner…and I will answer any questions. I find people that are apprehensive tend to mellow out if I say “ask me anything”…and it amazes me what straight people want to know…lol. First is always “who’s the man?” A lot of straight people assume that we ONLY have sex with toys..soo many questions and if you answer them with respect for yourself and the person asking them they tend to just take it in stride I find. Not everyone is as open as me though..lol Now my wife is not out…we live where her family is and they are all ministers, preachers, strict baptist and they all tend to make rude remarks about gays and lesbians and how of course we are gonna burn in the fiery pits of hell..yadda yadda..heard it before…and will hear it again…but she refuses to come out until after her mother passes away. She feels in her heart her mother would die praying for her..took me a long time to get over that and many holidays at home alone by myself because she was with them and I couldnt be, but I have learned to repsect that, and if and when she ever does come out it will be on her terms, and when she is ready. My family loves us, loves her…but her family..even I dunno if I would want them to know. Might make life pretty miserable for us both. Hard enough dealing with the issues we face as a couple..certainly dont need all that drama..haha

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